The broken are the more evolved.
Are you proud of the trajectory you’re on in your life? Do you feel a sense of security about your future or do you at least feel a little less anxious, if not completely secure, about your future than what you felt in the past? Do you feel a sense of wonder and subtle-excitement for your future, to see exactly how much better things can get?
You can be hating your past for its dozen problems but, if you dare to look within, you don’t really hate the experiences per se. Yes, you wish you didn’t have to go through those events and you wish life was a little less harsh. You wish you weren’t tricked/fooled the way you were. You wish you didn’t meet that one person, you wish you had a different set of parents, you wish you had a different set of friends, you wish you chose a different field for your career. It could be anything in your case, I don’t know who you are and where you’re coming from in life.
No matter how much you hate the event in itself, you should learn to respect the outcome of that event — the experience in terms of the parts of your brain that just wouldn’t have developed had you not gone through whatever you went through. Respect the experience because deep in your heart you know somewhere those very same experiences shaped you. It might not have been the best way to have learnt something but you know your takeaway from that experience is worth something that you would be scared to lead your life without. You have seen a side of life that not many people have. You’ll keep those particular experiences in mind while making all your major future decisions. People around you, who’ve not been through that set of experiences, just won’t know what to be cautious of in the first place, maybe they’ll fall for the trap then? I know someone else’s falling for the same trap and hurting themselves won’t bring you peace but I’m just trying to make you think about how some lessons are probably inevitable and they are better learnt early in life.
If, by chance, life did happen the way you today wish for it to have happened then you would not have actually realized the value of life’s happening. Sometimes we only realize the value of someone/something in life after having experienced life without it. Maybe it’s a simple-yet-complex journey where we first mess up in life, we realize the value of things and then we go on to achieve the very same things (this time feeling accomplished and grateful for it). What a tragedy it would have been to have had all that you today wish for and to not have felt a sense of deep gratitude towards your life, maybe life is preparing you to feel deeper emotions of contentment and accomplishment which you otherwise could not have felt. Let life surprise you!
The broken are the more evolved. Rejoice. — Split
If those experiences didn’t happen, today you wouldn’t be who you are… aren’t you happy looking at life from these eyes full of experience and wisdom? Aren’t you excited to shape your future in alignment with your wildest ambitions? Do you not see how unique it makes you to have been chosen for all these big challenges? Do you not feel proud of the person standing in front of the mirror, who has gone through all that life had in store? Do you not feel how it has contributed to your character-building?
